Fay's favorite five.

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Here is your weekly dose of Fay's favorite five ~ a 5-minute or five-second thought from me, based on something I’m loving, learning, or exploring.

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On the AI mirror

If you’ve been chatting with AI over the past 1-3 years, try these 7 prompts for self-reflection to explore what it remembers and what patterns it notices about you.

Copy and paste the following into your most-used AI tool:

1. What do you remember about me? List everything available to you from our chats: names, places, work, habits, preferences, and personal details. Don’t summarize or omit anything. Explain any limits on what you can access.
2. What have you inferred about me? List things I never explicitly told you, such as my age range, income, location, education, or relationship status. For each, explain the evidence and your confidence.
3. What psychological patterns do you notice? Describe how I make decisions, what drives me, what I avoid, and how I handle stress and conflict. Discuss attachment patterns only if there is enough evidence. Be candid, not flattering, and don’t diagnose me.
4. What are my blind spots? Identify traits or insecurities I may overlook, and how I might come across differently than I intend. Be direct and support your observations with examples.
5. What pattern do I keep repeating? Identify a recurring pattern I may not recognize. Use my exact words as evidence and explain what it could be costing me.
6. What would you predict about my behavior? Predict how I might handle future situations involving money, stress, conflict, and my next major decision. Explain the behavior behind each prediction and rate your confidence.
7. What marketing would work on me? Identify my likely spending triggers, insecurities a company could exploit, and a pitch I might find hard to resist. Explain why.

Separate facts from inferences. Don’t invent details. If you don’t know, say so.

Note: Treat the answers as possibilities to examine, not truths about who you are. AI can misread you, and its memory is likely incomplete.

On 40-page contracts

If I need a forty-page contract before I can work with you, the cost is already too high.

-Shane Parrish

Fay's addendum:

It took me years in business to learn this: when a new working relationship starts behind a long, complicated contract, it’s usually not the right fit.

The most promising people I’ve hired lately wanted to start small and prove themselves first. By the time we put a contract in place, it wasn't even 4 pages.

On communication

It's remarkable how often the real problem is not what happened, but how it was communicated.

-James Clear

Fay's addendum:

So often, what feels like a conflict isn’t really about the issue at all. It’s about how the issue was communicated.

IMHO, communication will forever be underrated as the number one life skill.

On a step backwards

A step backwards after making a wrong turn is a step in the right direction.

-Kurt Vonnegut

Fay's addendum:

Some weeks can feel like we’re moving backwards, especially when there’s nothing visible to show for our hard work. But a step back usually means we’ve learned something we couldn’t have learned standing still. It isn’t lost ground; it’s the impetus for a better direction.

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